Whether you’ve recently lost a loved one or there are things going wrong in your life otherwise, it’s not easy to keep your chin up when all you want to do is throw in the towel.
It’s not easy seeing the “bright side” when nothing goes according to plan. It’s not easy smiling or laughing when you feel like your world has turned upside down.
I know exactly what you’re going through, because I’ve been there. It may not be the same situation, but I understand the feeling.
It’s very difficult staying strong when the whole world is stacked against you. But I want you to know that you are strong enough. You are brave and you can make it through this.
Here’s what I do when nothing goes the way I planned it:
Don’t React, Respond
It’s easy to say this, but it takes immense practice and patience: when you’re angry and frustrated, don’t react to what people say.
Remember that sometimes, people don’t think when they speak. When I’m angry, I take a moment to cool down. I drink cold water or repeat to myself, “I’m better than this,” because I know I am.
It’s easy to react in the moment. Silence is your best friend during this time. Think about everything that makes you happy. I like to go for a run or listen to music. Do what works best for you.
Keep Your Eye on the Goal
Don’t forget that you have a purpose—to achieve your dreams and goals. Envision yourself winning the race and getting that trophy you’ve had your eyes on. Think about the feeling you experience when you get one step closer to your goal.
The road to success is paved with thorns. It’s not going to be easy but I can promise you one thing: it’ll be worth it.
Think About Solutions, Not Your Emotions
This one is also easier said than done. But remember, getting emotional will not solve the problem. It will actually make it worse. Like I said earlier, don’t react. Try to respond.
If you need time to cool down, then immediately remove yourself from the situation. If you can’t leave the room, then sit down and drink a glass of whatever. Repeat to yourself, “I’m better than this and I won’t let this affect me.”
We make bad decisions when we’re not thinking straight. After you’ve cooled down, think of logical ways to solve the problem.
Think about whether it’s worth the hassle or not. Think about how it will affect you in the future if you react badly.
We all have our ups and downs. But it’s how we react to situations that makes all the difference. Remember that everyone’s fighting a war and we’re not perfect.
But an athlete needs to have a heart of steel, and the discipline and patience of a monk.
I’ve learned a lot throughout my journey as an athlete and I strive to learn more.